Dealing with Blame and Accusation 处理指责与控诉 （300)

When someone blames you, you feel a heavy load on your head, and when you talk about it you spread the unpleasant feeling all around you. At this moment wake up and see you are Being and nothing can touch you. This is all just a drama, which you yourself have created. You have gone through this over and over again. All the blames you face in your life are your own creation. Knowing this, you feel free and light.

Owning responsibility for all your experiences in life makes you powerful and will put an end to grumbling, planning counter attacks, explanations, and all those host of negative tendencies. Owning full responsibility you become free.

When someone blames you, directly or indirectly, what do you do?

Do you register it in your mind and get emotionally upset?
Do you dismiss them altogether without taking a lesson from it?
Do you talk about it with people and waste your time and other's time and money?
Do you pity yourself and blame your shortcomings?
Do you blame the other person right, left and center?
Do you generalize and eternalize the problem?

Then you are not living up to the knowledge. You need to do the basic course at least half a dozen times and read all the previous knowledge sheets.

Do you laugh at it and not even take notice of it?
Do you treat it as a non-event, not even worth talking about, let alone taking any action?
Do you treat comments and accusations as passing clouds and more of an entertainment?
Do you discourage dwelling on unpleasant and negative moments?
Do you remain non-judgmental and absolutely unshaken in your space of love?
Outwardly you may be calm, but do you also remain centered and calm within you and not even take pride in your growth or wisdom?

Then you are a pride to your tutor - the Master.

You cannot take credit for loving Guruji or any wise person, as you have no choice at all as it will happen against all odds!

To love someone whom you like is not a big deal at all.
To love someone because they love you, you get zero marks.
To love someone whom you do not like, you have learned a lesson in life.
To love someone who blames you for no reason, you have learned the art of living.

当有人责备你时，你会觉得头上有很重的压力，当你谈论到这事情时，你会把那不愉快的感觉散播在你的四周。在那一刻，你要醒一醒，并明白你是“本体”同时没有任何东西能够碰触你。这全都只是一出戏，一出你自己所创造的戏码。你一而再、再而三地经历这种事。你生命里所面对的一切责难都是你自己的创造。明白这点，你就会觉得自在与轻松。

承担起生命中一切经验的责任，将会使你变得强壮，而且让抱怨、反击的计划、解释和一大堆负面的倾向止息。承担起完全的责任，你将会变得自在。

当别人直接或间接责备你时，你会怎么做？

-你是否记在心中，且情绪受到干扰？

-你是否把那责备与责备你的人一齐抛诸脑后，而未从中获取任何教训？

-你是否跟别人谈论此事，浪费自己和别人的时间以及金钱？

-你是否自怨自怜，并责怪自己的缺点？

-你是否责怪别人？

-你是否将问题一般化并且永恒化？

如果是那样的话，你就没有活出知识的标准。你必须至少再上六次的初级课程，并且阅读所有的每周知识。

-你是否一笑置之，甚至没有去注意它？

-你是否不把它当作一回事，甚至不值得去谈论，更不用说采取任何行动？

-你是否将批评及指控视为过眼云烟，现在比较像是一种有趣的事？

-你是否不容许自己的念头停留在不愉快及消极的时刻？

-你是否在爱的空间里仍旧保持不评断及绝对不受动摇？

-你的外表也许是平静的，但内在是否也保持稳定及平静，而且对于自己的成长或智慧甚至不会感到骄傲？

如果是那样的话，那么你就是你的老师、师父所引以为傲的人。

你不会因为爱古儒吉或任何智者而有任何功劳，你不得不爱他们，因为那是无论如何都会发生的事！

去爱一个你喜欢的人，没什么了不起。

去爱一个爱你的人，你什么分数也得不到。

去爱一个你不喜欢的人，你在生命就学到了一些东西。

去爱一个无缘无故责备你的人，你就学到了生活的艺术。