Learning about power of silence
A DIFFERENT SPIN By JO-JO STRUYS
A meeting with Guruji becomes a timely reminder on not going too fast in life.
WHEN I was flipping through The Star a few weeks ago, an article written by T. Selva on “Sweet Silence” caught my attention.
At the time, I was yelling at my three dogs to stop barking because someone was at the door and my phone was ringing while I was in the midst of sending a Twitter message.
I remember thinking what a terrible example I was of “sweet silence”.
I’ve read countless books on how important it is to silence the mind because living in a world surrounded by noise and constant stress can overtax our bodies and drain our creative energies.
In the midst of a manic film schedule, I was intrigued by the impending visit of a famous Indian guru called Sri Ravi Shankar (also referred to as Guruji).
He is the founder of the Art of Living Foundation, which aims at relieving both individual stress and societal problems and violence.
Today, the Art of Living Foundation is the world’s largest volunteer-based non-governmental organisation.
It has touched more than 20 million people from all walks of life.
The Guruji has also been nominated for a Nobel Peace Prize.
Here’s the odd part. I was at The Star two days later and by sheer coincidence, I ran into Selva.
He gave me the contact information I required and said if I was meant to meet the Guruji, it would happen.
As it turned out, I missed the seminar in Kuala Lumpur but the Guruji was scheduled to visit Penang.
An incredible 13,000 people showed up to get a glimpse of him and to hear his words of wisdom.
In attendance during his one-hour talk was Penang Chief Minister Lim Guan Eng.
I was actually in Penang at that time to film my new food show. I couldn’t believe my luck!
I ended up having a private audience with him and a select few members of the media in his hotel suite.
Words can’t explain how privileged I felt to meet him.
There were so many questions I could have asked but they didn’t seem important in his company.
I ended up putting my notebook aside and blurted out “do you mind if I gave you a hug?” and I scrambled off my chair to give him one.
Just observing a great master was like Eckhart Tolle’s Power of Now coming to life for me.
For all his intelligence and profound wisdom, there was a child-like quality about him.
I didn’t expect him to be funny but he had a sense of humour.
He made everyone in that room laugh with the simplest of statements.
Someone asked him what his secret to happiness was and he said “when you make others happy, it makes you happy”.
Unfortunately, people always get into the habit of postponing happiness – “once I get the job I’ve always wanted or that car or dream house, I’ll be happy” – yet the present moment is the only one we have any control of.
As Buddha said: “Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.”
But how do we live the moment in this dog-eat-dog world?
It’s near impossible to be fully present when our thoughts are leaping from topic to topic like turntables in our mind.
Guruji spoke about the importance of silence in removing stress and anxious thoughts.
In ancient texts, it is actually recommended that every individual spend some time in silence every month to strengthen the mind and clear out the clutter of useless, negative thoughts.
This is where our modern lifestyles don’t help.
So many of us are addicted to our phones and gadgets.
We feel totally lost without them.
We keep absorbing more and more input.
Even watching TV before you go to sleep is still cramming your brain with more information.
How do we give our overworked minds a break?
Someone told the Guruji: “I think I can remain calm so long as someone doesn’t say or do anything to anger me.”
That is not the reality of the world we live in.
We cannot control the people around us, only ourselves, so it’s up to us on how we respond to any situation life throws at us.
He replied: “The next time someone is rude to you, make sure you do not get upset. Just return a broad smile. If you can digest rudeness, nothing whatsoever can shake you.”
It is easier said than done but just a little bit of silence can go a long way in strengthening our minds.
Simply put, the more we’re surrounded by noise and modern day pressures, the more stressed we become, which is why pure and uninterrupted silence can work wonders for the soul.
It is also the quiet space where ideas and inspirations can come to you.
If someone gave you a miracle remedy in a bottle, it might cost you a small fortune, but silence is free.
Have you tried not talking to anyone for an entire day?
Even if it was only for one day in a year, just try it and don’t use your mobile phone or computer either.
Just get out of your usual environment and immerse yourself in nature to recharge your batteries.
I am truly grateful I had the chance to meet the Guruji.
It was like a speed hump on my journey reminding me to be present and to slow down because I was going too fast.
We all know the theory but the real challenge is putting it into practice.
We need to make time to stop and smell the roses and to talk less and listen more to our own hearts.
